Starting Small Routines: Your Path to Lasting Change
- Liz Wooten
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By Liz Wooten, LPC
TL;DR:
- Pick a tiny step that fits your daily flow—no need to overhaul everything at once.
- Link your new routine to something you already do, like a short journal entry right after letting your dog out.
- Celebrate each success to boost motivation and gently build on your accomplishments.
- Be kind to your mind: smaller changes are easier for neurodivergent individuals or anyone feeling stressed.
Setting the Stage
Hi, Liz here—your friendly therapist who knows life can feel chaotic. I’ve seen countless people battle that urge to do “all the things” but end up too overwhelmed to do any of them. Maybe you’re juggling a busy career in downtown St. Louis, or you’re a parent running between soccer games and quick grocery runs. Truth is, starting small routines can be the difference between chronic stress and genuine progress.
In my therapy work, I’ve noticed how often folks believe they need to make huge leaps for change to count. But realistically, it’s the little shifts—the two-minute reset, the simple five-breath pause— that lead to long-term transformation. Let’s explore how small can truly be mighty, especially when you’re short on time or mental energy.
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Why Tiny Steps Work Wonders
Think of your brain as a curious, sometimes cautious partner. Sudden, dramatic changes can set off internal alarms, making you want to bail on your new habit. By keeping your adjustments small, you sneak past that alarm system.
Research suggests that micro-habits offer repeated, quick wins. Each successful moment dials down resistance, allowing you to add new layers of routine at a comfortable pace. If you’re neurodiverse, gentle shifts help avoid sensory overload or mental fatigue. And if you’re constantly on the go, tiny tasks fit neatly into your day without a major time commitment.
Real Client’s, Real Stories
Take Mariah, a high-energy nursing student in St. Louis. Her schedule is packed with clinical hours, study groups, and a part-time gig on weekends. Overhauling her daily routine felt impossible. Instead, she started with a single mini-break in the afternoon: a 90-second pause to breathe or text a friend a quick hello. That brief recharge gave her a sense of calm and built enough momentum to add a second routine: a quick meal-prep check before dinner.
Meanwhile, Jordan, a parent to two energetic kids, found that all-day demands left zero downtime. They began by carving out just one consistent slot—a few minutes after reading bedtime stories—to reflect on the day. This small reflection moment helped Jordan feel more balanced and ready to face the next day, eventually inspiring a longer evening wind-down ritual.
Practical Steps to Start Small
1. Identify a Habit Anchor: Pinpoint one existing habit—like brewing tea or checking the mail. Attach a brief action immediately after, such as jotting down a two-item to-do list.
2. Set a Gentle Reminder: A simple phone alarm or a sticky note can do wonders. Nudges help ensure you don’t forget when life gets busy.
3. Reward Yourself Fast: Let yourself feel good right away. Maybe a quick sip of your favorite drink or a mental pat on the back. Celebrate the micro-win.
4. Expand Slowly: After a week or two of consistency, tack on another micro-task or extend your current one by a minute or two. Keep the process relaxed
Why Slow and Steady Wins
Sometimes, we think going bigger is always better—especially if we feel behind on our goals. But adding multiple new tasks at once can backfire, leading to frustration or a sense of failure if we can’t keep up the pace. By taking it slow, we’re giving our brain time to adjust, learn, and actually enjoy the new patterns.
Real growth often happens in these subtle moments. Imagine waking up one morning and realizing you’ve naturally slid into a mini-routine without even thinking about it. That’s the real magic: it starts to feel effortless, leaving you open to expand even further.
Bringing It All Together
As someone who’s coached countless clients through overwhelm, I can promise you: starting small routines isn’t a shortcut or a cop-out—it’s often the most effective way to build lasting change. You’re not scrambling to keep up with a massive, sudden overhaul; you’re allowing yourself to ease into new habits, one gentle step at a time.
If you’re noticing that you could use a bit more guidance, I’m here to help. Whether that’s sorting out the first micro-action you’ll adopt or exploring bigger-picture goals, don’t hesitate to reach out. There’s no rush—just a steady, enjoyable path toward feeling more in control of your day.
Ready to keep going? Try adding one more tiny routine to your day this week. If you already have something in mind, go for it! If not, consider a quick morning “brain dump” or a short midday stretch. Once you see how easy it is to maintain, you’ll realize momentum can be a wonderful thing.
*The information here is meant to guide and inform, not replace the care of a qualified healthcare professional. If you have questions or concerns about a medical or mental-health condition, please reach out to a trusted provider. The examples shared are based on general personas—no personal health details are used. At Enlitens, your privacy is a top priority, and we fully comply with HIPAA regulations to keep your information safe and confidential.
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